Sally Panter was pregnant and six weeks from getting married when her relationship broke down, but she came to realise she was strong enough to go it alone.
"James* and I had been together for two years and were planning our wedding when I found out I was pregnant. We were living overseas, but decided we should move back home so our child would grow up surrounded by family and friends.
But, as the weeks went by, I felt James was drifting away from me. The strain of getting married, moving country, buying a house and having a baby within the space of 12 months seemed to be getting on top of him, and I found him increasingly remote and difficult to talk to. .
When I was 16 weeks pregnant James told me he needed some space to clear his head. At that point, I realised our relationship was at breaking point. .
We finally had a tense conversation over the phone, and he told me that he couldn't see a way to make it work.
With just six weeks to go until our wedding, I sat in front of my phone, knowing I had to cancel all our plans, but it hit me that I had something to feel grateful for — the baby inside me. I had to do everything I could to stay strong for him or her.
My friends and family were amazing, and were 100% there for me. And, although I cried a lot in private, I threw myself into making plans for my new life — buying a house near my parents and earning a promotion at work.
It hasn't always been easy, and going to the 20-week scan alone was particularly painful. But, while I was dreading being a single mum-to-be at antenatal classes, it hasn't been as awkward as I expected. My mum is going to be my birth partner, and we're both really excited.
James wants to be involved in our child's life but, day to day, I'll be solely responsible for my baby. I know it's going to be exhausting but, on the positive side, I'll never have to compromise on how I raise my child.
Now I'm just looking forward to becoming a mother. I may be on my own, but I know I can do a great job.
Three things I’ve learned
1) My body knows what it needs – I was a vegetarian before I became pregnant. Now, though, I crave and eat steak all the time.
2) Fashionable maternity clothes do exist – I was pleasantly surprised to discover I can still dress the way I want.
3) Being in water is wonderful – I’ve discovered aquanatal classes and with the water taking my weight, I can move about to my heart’s content."
What has been your biggest mummy triumph?