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Real life: "I was in labour for three days"

Anna
Thursday, June 7, 2012
"Two weeks on, breastfeeding wasn’t getting any easier. The final straw came when Daisy was weighed and still hadn’t gained any weight."
Anna

After a three-day labour, Anna was relieved to have her baby in her arms. But there were more challenges ahead.

“I was on a adrenalin high after giving birth. I was desperate for everyone to meet Daisy, and spent an hour excitedly texting all my friends. But from our first breastfeed I knew things weren’t right.

“Daisy’s latch was ferocious and left me with love bites all around my nipples. By our second morning, my nipples were bleeding and every feed was agony. After three nights in hospital trying to establish breastfeeding, Daisy and I were discharged.

“I was looking forward to being at home, but I underestimated how hard it would be. I loved Daisy and felt protective of her, but I was exhausted, frustrated and in pain. I sobbed through every feed and, when I wasn’t feeding, I dreaded her getting hungry.

“For the first four days at home, it felt like we were living in a bubble. Paul and I were worn out but it was great to have time to ourselves, with nothing to think about but Daisy — I didn’t even get out of my pyjamas.

“It was only when we decided to go for a walk at the end of the week that I realised how much labour had taken out of me. As soon as I stepped outside, I felt like I’d been hit by a truck. I burst into tears and wanted to go home again.

Formula won
“The first two weeks passed in a blur. It was hard for Paul to see me struggling. But he was always the voice of reason — I really leaned on him for support. My mum was brilliant, too. Daisy was unsettled in the evenings, so every day she turned up at 7pm to help. She was so reassuring, telling me I was doing a great job — it gave me a new respect for her as a mother.

“Two weeks on, breastfeeding wasn’t getting any easier. The final straw came when Daisy was weighed and still hadn’t gained any weight. My GP suggested topping her up with formula and the difference was incredible — her weight picked up and almost instantly she became more contented.

“From then on my bond with Daisy grew by the day. Instead of dreading feeding her, I looked forward to cuddling up and giving her a bottle. I was also able to get out and about again. I met up with my friends to compare birth stories and even started going to mother and baby yoga.

“Daisy’s sleep also improved and by four weeks we decided to move entirely into formula. I felt guilty, but I knew it was the right decision — for all of us.

“Now I’ve found my confidence as a mum. When I’m pushing the pram and people stop to admire Daisy I feel so proud. Paul and I have become even closer, too. We’re a real team and appreciate each other more than ever.

“Adapting to motherhood has been a slow process but we’ve got though the hardest part, and I absolutely adore my baby girl. When I look into Daisy’s bassinet in the morning, her face breaks into a great big smile. I’ve fallen in love with her and it feels amazing.”

User comments
So happy to read that! How horrible it must have been to dread feeding your liitle baby, but it was nobody's fault. You did your best. I get scared that the same thing will happen to me I'm 27 weeks but if it does and I have to switch to formula permanently it wont be a decision I'll make lightly, just like this lady. I salute you.
Stories like that reassure me that (being 32 weeks pregnant) things are going to be hard but I can get through them! Daisyboo - unless you have nothing nice to say, don't say anything at all! Well done, that was a beautiful story! =)
Well done Anna. I am the mum of a 14 month old baby boy and i am expecting my second child. I had a similar problem when i was trying to breast feed my baby boy but my problem was lack of supply not pain. I had to transfer him to formula after only 3 weeks on breast milk and the guilt was terrible but when my son was weighed and measured at his 3 month check up and he was in the top 95% for his age i knew i had done the right thing. Breast milk is great but the formulas on the market are fantastic and improving everyday so there is not that much of a difference between the two. So long as you and your baby are healthy, it doesn't matter which one you give them.
Daisyboo, why would you post that comment at the end of a beautiful story like this. Just because you managed to get through a similar situation and eventually get breastfeeding right doesn't mean that's going to work for everyone. I am pro-breastfeeding - BUT - not if it's to the detriment of a child's health and or Mother's mental health. Your comment should be directed elsewhere. I say congratulations Anna...it's not easy to admit that breastfeeding isn't working for you - and the guilt that goes along with that can be enormous. But, the proof that you are doing the right thing for you would be in your beautiful daughter, and in how much happier and healthier you feel now.
It would be nice to see a story about someone struggling with breastfeeding who actually got through the hard stuff and made it work! It can be done, I know as I've been in the same position and I'm still feeding my DD.

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