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Welcome our new mummy blogger: Sophie Knox

Sophie Knox
Wednesday, October 19, 2011
Mega happy mum: Sophie Knox with Lexie and Emma
When I was invited to be Mother & Baby's mummy blogger, it was like being asked out on a date after a very long dry spell. You see, I'm the mum of two gorgeous girls, both under two, with not much time for socialising. So given the opportunity to hang out with you all — mums who lead similar lives, I'm guessing — I was chuffed to say the least.

Sure, I have friends and family with children too, but let's face it, accommodating sleeps for a five-month-old and a 22-month-old, doing the washing, cooking and cleaning and a bit of catch-up sleep for myself here and there, doesn't leave much time for one-on-one chit-chat.

You may have read my columns in Mother & Baby magazine — I joined about six months ago and have loved sharing my story with its readers.

And now as your blogger (or blobber, as my daughter Lexie puts it), I'm here to gee-up a bit of discussion about all the crazy, wonderful, confusing, frustrating, exhilarating issues we face as parents on a daily basis, from toilet training and introducing solids, to reflux concerns, relationship woes and sleep deprivation. You name it, we'll talk about it.

So my first-date etiquette is a little rusty but here we go — my name is Sophie and I share my life with Dan, my partner, Lexie, our nearly two-year-old toddler, and Emma, our five-month-old newbie.

We tried to conceive Lexie for two-and-a-half years before IVF took over and did the job for us. Thinking we could never conceive naturally, let's say we were lax when it came to contraception, and what do you know, along came Emma 17 months later. Life is full of surprises!

Despite the fact that I've been in mummy mode for two years now, I still feel like I'm on a super-steep learning curve. One minute I'm the editor of a food magazine, enjoying a busy life travelling, eating out, seeing friends (most of whom already had kids and to say I was jealous would be an understatement); the next I'm at home changing nappies 24/7.

Don't get me wrong, I'm mega happy to be a mum, but unlike the uncomplicated desire I felt to have a baby, I'm constantly surprised by the gamut of emotions that run through my emotional hard drive now that I've arrived at motherhood.

For example, I yearn to experience the stimulation of being at work but I also wouldn't miss these precious years with my daughters for the world. And despite totally embracing the unkempt look of a busy mum (my current beauty friends are under-eye concealer and talcum powder sprinkled through my hair to extend the wash a few days), I still fantasise about wearing lovely clothes, blow-drying my locks and exfoliating my skin. So am I alone? Is motherhood what you'd expect it to be? How do you feel about being a mum — or dad (let's include everyone)? I'd love to hear your stories. Until next time…

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User comments
Six years ago I had my beautiful daughter and was totally elated but I gave up my private practice as I couldn't find anyone to take over and then my husband got a job promotion in Melbourne, so off we went. I was totally isolated in Melbourne and inspite of joining mother's groups and taking my little girl to gymbaroo, swimming lessons, mums and bubs yoga classes, play centres, I was a total wreck just for the isolation alone. I put on the weight and no amount of make-up could conceal the fatigue, frustration, loneliness and the brain dead boredom I felt. Then back to Sydney, a million things happening including the birth of number two almost 5 years later and I must say I'm enjoying it much more. My little boy is now 19 months old and I'm closer to family and friends, lost a tonne of weight and looking forward to returning back to work, whatever that might be. Motherhood has its moments, its good to be positive but equally good to keep it real too.
"I also wouldn't miss these precious years with my daughters for the world" So why should a father have to miss them again?
"Research shows that, on top of Australians working longer than any other developed country in the world, men have to work the equivalent of almost two extra weeks a year once they have kids — the expense means he simply has to. But Dad can still play his part in raising great kids in the precious little time that he has with them. Don't moan at home" I was just reading that it is important for a baby to have a happy and healthy mother. Would you please explain why a child does not need a happy and healthy father? Why is it good for a baby to have "precious little time" with his father because the father has to do more than 50 hours a week while she does none? Is it good for a baby to have the mother constantly moaning about the "drudgery" of caring for her own child? Like in that Family Court case recently where the child's relationship with her father was destroyed coz mum is doing all the drudgery?
Nice to read your voice, Sophie.
Great first blog Sophie. As a working mum who is balancing a demanding career with raising our son, 2, it is fantastic to hear from others who are also managing this without the help of a full-time nanny. Sure we may not look as polished as we used to, but it sure it satisfying. My beauty routine has become pretty simple - a ponytail has become my trusted friend and I've learned to leave getting dressed till two minutes before I'm due to leave the house... Will definitely give the talcum powder a try! Can't wait for your next blog.
I have a 5 week old boy and the learning curve has been very steep! It was unfathomable for me to comprehend motherhood beforehand, as much as I may have thought I knew what I was in for. As selfish as it I dread it sounds, I find the distance and change in my marriage hard to come to terms with. I miss my husband!!!! Any chance there is to have some time together really should be spent sleeping, thus we have become ships in the night. In the mix of excitement and new love for our child, is a mourning for our blissful and self indulgent coupledom. I am in awe of you managing with two such little ones, writing a blog, and looking so spectacular all the while!
Hi Sophie, and everyone else! I have to say I can't actually remember what I expected motherhood to be like before becoming a mother, but I did think I could handle it easily and would love every minute of it, as a mother is what I've wanted to be from as young as I can remember. I did have a bit of a wake-up call with the sleepless nights, and stressful times, as well as the strain placed on the relationship with hubby, but we're expecting number 2 now and wouldn't change it for anything. I have found now I am a mum though, that I suddenly have all these ambitions career-wise, so as to provide better for my family. I find it ironic that when I had the time to, I wasn't that bothered, and now our time and money are restricted, there are all these plans we want to make happen! I guess I'll just have to enjoy the bubs while they're young, and work on the future when they're not quite so dependent on Mummy anymore!
I went back to work full time this week after 12 months off, & have discovered the virtues of under eye concealer - I love it! Even though my 11 month old sleeps through and has for some time, I am perpetually exhausted with permanent purple circles under my eyes. Not a good look when I'm trying to look bright-eyed & bushy tailed for work lol. I must try the talcum powder too - thanks for the tip Love the photo of you & your girls too btw, they're very cute. xox
Great blog!! As a new dad, I have been unprepared for many things but the most astounding thing is the ridiculous amount of washing that needs to be done for one mini-person!! Looking forward to reading your next instalment and if someone could send a personal assistant asap that would be fantastic thank you.
Also a mother of two lovely children, a girl, 23 months and a boy, 11 weeks, I can relate to feeling less than glamorous! The lack of "me" time doesn't allow for much more than a daily shower at the moment and I can't remember the last time I had a good hair day... I do miss dressing nicely and having the ability to just spend time chatting (uninterrupted!) with friends but I take these changes and many more as part of having a wonderful family. I also try to remember that it won't be like this forever and the daily challenges will evolve as my kids grow up.

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